One of the simplest and most powerful ways to create intimacy with your partner is synchronized breathing and eye gazing. We’ll go over it here and ask that you practice as much as you can before the Intensive. 2 minutes each morning together would be a great start, but you can do up to 5 minutes in the morning, and 5 minutes at night that would be great.
Here is how to do it.
Sit comfortably across from each other, perhaps cross legged, with your knees almost touching. Try to keep yourself upright, no slouching.
Set a timer on your phone so you don’t have to worry about it. Try 2 minutes at first, work your way up to 5 minutes at a time.
Gaze into each other’s LEFT eye. Ask your partner to point to their own left eye, so you know which eye to look into. This helps because if you are gazing back and forth from left to right… it gets distracting.
Maintain the gaze on the left eye for the full two minutes.
Finally, if you can, synchronize your breath. It’s usually good for the masculine partner to set a steady solid rhythm. but he has to be cognizant of her breathing, so that he breathes at a rhythm that works for her. It might take some practice to get good at this. Sometimes one partner breathes very shallow, so you may have to request that they breathe deeper so you can see the stomach or chest rise and fall in your peripheral vision.
That’s it. Do it for 2 minutes.
RESULT
It will immediately create intimacy, and for some, initially, it can be uncomfortable. The eyes are the window to the soul, as they say, and it can be really vulnerable locking your gaze like this.
But… that’s the point. We gently encourage you to commit to it and do it every day for the 20 days before the Intensive. The benefits of this simple practice are profound. They help you connect to each other on a daily basis, deeper and deeper, and produce opportunities for both strength and vulnerability to arise. Great healing can happen when you can maintain this kind of contact day in and day out.
Jason and Jennie
The Picture below shows how a couple can get even closer together, but is not the recommended starting place.
